Ladies, I've got news for you – if you're still single and frustrated about it, it means one of two things: 1. You're super picky OR 2. You're doing something wrong.
Let me guess: You tell people that you're super picky, right? But you know as well as I do that you're probably doing something wrong. Well, it's time to start doing things the right way. My way – as I "own the minds of men." Before you go hunting for a boyfriend, establish a few goals and principles first so you avoid the risk of settling for something you do not really want.
1. Determine what your "non-negotiables" are:
"Non-Negotiables" are qualities or attributes you've determined are
essential for another person to possess. They may range from height to weight, to smoking and drinking habits, to religious affiliations, etc. If someone does not possess your non-negotiables – move on. You can not change a person's essential beliefs or behaviors. Compromising on them usually leads to unhappiness, discontent, and even relationship disaster. Remember: a leopard does not change his spots.
2. Reconnect with yourself:
Get to know yourself! This is especially important if you have recently broken up with someone. Sometimes, especially after a bad relationship, you might have a tendency to lose sight of yourself and your own needs. Start spending time with yourself doing things you like to do.
3. Be Realistic:
After you have assessed where you are and where you want to be in the future, you have to accept that you may have to make some changes – to your appearance, your lifestyle, maybe even where you live and what you do for a living.
4. Be Honest
You have to be honest about what you want from a relationship (marriage, children, friendships, etc). Do not carry in a relationship if you know it's not going where you want it to go. You should not do things you do not feel good about doing (like having sex too early in a relationship). It means being honest with yourself about where you are in life and what you can do to change it.
5. Love Yourself!
Finally – and this is the big one – love yourself! Treat yourself with respect. Eat food that's good for you, wear clothes that are flattering to your figure, listen to beautiful music, and spend time with friends you love. Be good to yourself every day.
Now that you know who you are, what you want, let me give you some dos and don'ts of dating.
For the ladies: If I am to be perfectly honest, there's more than one perfect guy out there for you. Now, not every man is going to be interested in you, no matter how beautiful, smart, or successful you are, but do not worry. While guys may have a list of what they want in a mate, they are usually open-minded as well. As long as you're open-minded, things could definitely work out for both of you.
When you do meet someone, keep your conversations along these guidelines:
1. Be funny. Men love this.
2. Introduce yourself near the beginning of the conversation. It's polite and makes the conversation more relaxing because he will not be thinking, "I've been talking to this woman for twenty minutes and I still have no idea what her name is."
3. Do not be afraid to pay him a compliment. He's human. He'll love it.
4. Have more than one topic of conversation. Do not get stuck on one topic forever; move the conversation in a new direction when the time sees right.
5. Go with the flow.