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*SEXUAL IMMORALITY IN THE 21ST CENTURY AND HOW TO PROTECT ONESELF* ~Reflecting heart
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh.
Let me drop some snippets here for our morning digestion.
*Topic: SEXUAL LIMIT*
Brothers and sisters; SET STRICT BOUNDARIES to save your Eeman.
Listen Attentively 👂🏻👂🏻
Sexual immorality is on the increase all over the world. Adultery and fornication is fast becoming the norm and the pious are also being infected 😢
Married women are not left out, many are having secret lovers, and emotional affairs are becoming the order of the day.
The rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming!
It is spreading fast into every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into it.
It’s no news that 10, 13 years old kids are now sexually attracted to each other, perhaps due to the movies they watch.
Staying sexually pure these days is becoming a Herculean task 🙆🏻♂
One of the reasons people fall flat into illicit sex is over confidence. This mostly happens to the average pious ones among us.
The belief is that you can be free around the opposite sex and nothing would happen!
A lot will happen! my brother my sister.
Even if you trust yourself to some extent, you can’t tell about the other.
One of the ways you can stay sexually pure whether married or single at this end time is to set strict boundaries.
If you are too careless around the opposite sex, you will fall flat on your face! That is the truth.
Don’t joke with the Nafs (human soul)😭
Here is the reality of what I’m saying
وَمَا أُبَرِّئُ نَفْسِي إِنَّ النَّفْسَ لَأَمَّارَةٌ بِالسُّوءِ إِلَّا مَا رَحِمَ رَبِّي إِنَّ رَبِّي غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
“And I free not myself (from the blame). Verily, the (human) self is inclined to evil, except when my Lord bestows His Mercy (upon whom He wills). Verily, my Lord is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
The earlier you believe this and work on it, the better. You can’t be careless around the opposite sex and hope to stay sexually pure, set boundaries!
I was listening to one of Ustadh @penabdul video clip this morning where he said *”If you cannot safeguard your nafs (soul) from the fitnah (trial) of your handset then imagine how disastrous it will be when you take yourself down to that haram place or event”.*
*RAISE THE STANDARD HIGH* My Beloved brothers and sisters.
There are some people who can’t be your friends, raise the standard. Anybody can call you names, that’s their headache, you have your Deen (faith) and honour to protect…
Make it a principle and a life rule, not to make friends with liars, gossipers and jealous people. They make life so complicated. If he or she believes in illicit sex, don’t be friends, period! 🙌🏻
*BE YOUR OWN SELF SOUL NURSE*
Monitor your chats. Don’t allow anybody send you flirty messages, no matter how innocent it sounds, warn them and if they refuse to stop, block them! Heaven will not fall.
Don’t hug or handshake with the opposite sex.
Don’t allow strangers call you pet names (except your close family members and same sex friends), it doesn’t make any sense. Pet names turn the opposite sex on, if you don’t know that, know it right now.
Be sensitive to attractions.
Don’t be naive around the opposite sex, know when a man/woman is sexually attracted to you and move back from that person.
*BE SELF CONSCIOUS*
If they focus much on your physique and body, they are sexually attracted to you, move back.
Know when you are sexually attracted to someone and move back.
It’s perfectly normal to have chemistry for someone.
Marrying the greatest man on earth or the most beautiful, virtuous woman in the universe will not automatically stop you from being attracted to someone else.
Know when the thought of another man/woman get you excited and move back.
*NEVER! go into any relationship with the opposite sex except when Nikah (Marriage) is intended and with strict adherence to the dictates of the Shari’a.* FEAR ALLAH!
Study and find out about the person, know what they stand for, see if your core values are compatible, if not, move back! 🤗
*BROTHERS!* Listen 👂🏻👂🏻
Leadership attracts all kinds of people. Sisters like the popular and handsome types. If you are a leader or you are gifted, talented or intelligent, the opposite
sex will show more interest in you, be careful whom you allow to get close to you. SELF DISCIPLINE PLEASE 🙏🏻
Accepts gifts with care. Men don’t joke with their time and money. If he spends so much time and money on you especially when you do not ask, he may one day ask for sex.
Note: not in all cases but study him carefully and know his type of person from your conversations.
Stop begging men for money but if he willingly gives, you can collect but be conscious 🤗
Work with your two hands and raise your standard and be contented. Men will respect and honour you for it 👌🏻
Be a productive Muslimah, that’s the dream of a real man 👌🏻
*FOR THE MARRIED* Listen 👂🏻👂🏻
Work on your marriage. Fix the problem as soon as possible or else you get attracted to someone who gives you what you lack in your marriage, adultery is the result.
Be prayerful, be watchful. …”
Don’t stay with or counsel the opposite sex in a dark or lonely room.
Avoid provocative dresses and pictures.
Let your spouse or parents advise you on what is okay for you. Stick to the rules and regulations guiding dressing in Islam.
Avoid and stop posting pictures on social media. Don’t visit the opposite sex alone without mahram. It doesn’t make sense and it is equally prohibited in Islam.
*BE MINDFUL OF PRESSURE GROUP*
Once you set the standard, you will look odd, still accept it that way.
It better to be alone than to be in the wrong company of friends.
People may laugh at you, it doesn’t matter. They may call you a neurotic, psychotic, fanatic, over sensitive or paranoid, don’t give a damn!
Your Deen, faith and honour are too precious to waste on the altar of sin. Avoid friends who make fun of chastity and make friends with people who appreciate purity and modesty.
*LOWER YOUR GAZE* 🙇🏼
Avoid the second look, as much as possible. You may be excused for the first unintended look but the second is taken against you.
Finally, Set your boundaries and never allow anyone to compromise your Modesty or Piety.
You’re in charge! 👌🏻
These and more are the things you need to do to stay *sexually pure* in this 21st century.
May Allah continue to guide and protect us against all evils including the evils of our own souls.
*The Reflecting Heart*