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44 Personality Questions! Are They Too Much?

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People who apply for our Matchmaking service often ask various questions regarding the set of questionnaires they must answer before being considered for assessment.

“Are we writing WAEC or Cambridge exam?” “These are too overwhelming!” “Do we really need these?” “What if I answer wrongly?”
These and similar questions are often raised. This article will Insha-Allah explain the reasons why we consider this personality test an essential step in our Matchmaking process.

Firstly, this personality test is not an examination where the participant passes or fails. It is a psychologically proven system to detect the type of personality traits each person has. So, every question is correct, and no personality is bad.

This will help us in determining the level of compatibility in various perspectives of the applicant. This goes a very long way in saving the future Marriage of unnecessary misunderstanding and quarrels that may eventually lead to divorce.

These 44 short questions need no preparations or any previous studies. Everything is about yourself. Only the applicant can answer them for himself. The short questions take him less than 5 minutes.

Marriage that will last long in happiness really worths greater sacrifice. Whatever worths doing worths doing well.

Our main keyword at Zawaaj Matchmaking Center is compatibility. We religiously believe that incompatibility is the major factor contributing to divorce and unsuccessful marriages even among the serious and sincere Muslims.

Incompatibility is the main reason why two pious, modest and well-behaved couples may find it difficult to live together for long. Not necessarily that any one of the couples is actually bad.

Really, it is too painful and uncomfortable to stay with an Incompatible partner under the same roof, however ,good he or she may be. Marriage is not just a friendship, neighborhood or workplace relationship. It is a lifelong relationship.

Incompatibility is like putting a round peg in a square hole. When your food becomes the poison for your partner. Your preference becomes the most irritating thing to your partner. This becomes more pronounced and critical when it affects Communication and sexual preferences.

These unpalatable scenarios are what Zawaaj Matchmaking Center consider, and therefore use the personality test to discover the individual personality traits.

The Noble Role of a Muslim Wife: A Spiritual and Moral Responsibility

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The Noble Role of a Muslim Wife: A Spiritual and Moral Responsibility

_Based on a Lecture by Shaykh Abou Nãsir | Compiled by Abdulmalik Dolapo Mustapha_

In a time when worldly distractions have crept into our homes, weakening the family structure and draining our spirituality, Shaykh Abou Nãsir delivered a timely and powerful reminder on the noble role of a Muslim wife. Far beyond just fulfilling duties, the Muslim woman is entrusted with a moral, emotional, and spiritual responsibility that shapes the future of generations.

1. Du‘ā’: The Neglected Weapon of the Believing Woman
The Shaykh began by emphasizing the tremendous power of du‘ā’ in the life of a Muslim wife. Sadly, he lamented, many women today have become lazy in making du‘ā’, despite it being the strongest means to positively influence their homes and children.

A mother is not just a caregiver but the spiritual custodian of her children. Her late-night tears and whispered supplications hold more value than gold. The Shaykh referenced the famous scholar Sufyān ath-Thawrī, who would spend long hours in the night praying to Allah, begging Him to make his upbringing of a righteous child easy. This serves as a powerful reminder: the foundation of good parenting is not found in wealth or facilities, but in consistent and sincere du‘ā’.

It is the responsibility of every wife to train her heart to rely upon Allah through du‘ā’—for herself, for her husband’s leadership, and for the guidance and success of her children. In doing this, she becomes a silent but mighty force behind the spiritual future of the family.

2. Speaking Good of Her Husband: Planting Respect and Unity
One of the most damaging errors a wife can make, Shaykh Abou Nãsir warned, is to speak ill of her husband to their children. This does not only taint the children’s view of their father but also weakens their respect for leadership, discipline, and family structure.

The Shaykh narrated a real-life story of a father who desired that his son pursue Islamic scholarship, while the son preferred a career in medicine or engineering. Whenever the son approached his mother for support, she never belittled the father’s wishes. Instead, she firmly told him: “Obey your father. If you disobey him, you won’t even become the doctor you desire.” By Allah’s mercy, the son went on to become a PhD holder in Ḥadīth, thereby combining both worldly excellence and religious leadership.

This story shows the vital role of a mother’s tongue in shaping the path of her children. When a wife honors her husband, encourages the children to respect him, and speaks well of him in his absence, she creates a home filled with unity, love, and barakah. She will be the greatest beneficiary if her family thrives—and also the greatest sufferer if it falls apart due to her own words.

3. Taking Charge of the Home: Eliminating Harmful Distractions
Shaykh Abou Nãsir called upon Muslim wives to purify their homes by removing the tools of distraction that often lead to spiritual erosion. Chief among these is the television, which bombards the home with immorality, time-wasting, and corrupt ideologies. He also cautioned women against excessive and purposeless use of their phones, which has become a major distraction from parenting, worship, and self-improvement.

The Shaykh gave a stern warning: Do not give a mobile phone to a girl until her marriage. Phones, he explained, expose young girls to peer pressure, early emotional entanglements, and a loss of haya’ (modesty). A girl should be raised upon simplicity, seriousness, and taqwā—not endless chatting, videos, and entertainment.

The Muslim wife is the manager of her home, and it is her duty to create an environment where Qur’an, discipline, peace, and learning are the core values. Removing distractions is not harshness—it is a form of love and protection.

4. Patience in Financial Hardship: The Test of a Believer’s Wife
When speaking on financial challenges, the Shaykh reminded women that hardship is not a license for rebellion or compromise. In fact, financial difficulties are often a test of patience, trust in Allah, and family unity.

He referenced how the wives of the Prophet ﷺ, though they faced poverty, were never advised by Allah to solve it by opening shops at the front or rear of their homes. Instead, Allah directed them to remain steadfast, dignified, and spiritually committed.

In today’s world, some women respond to financial stress by comparing their lives to others, becoming ungrateful, or even seeking harām means to survive. This, the Shaykh emphasized, often leads to the collapse of the home.

True patience is not weakness; it is spiritual strength. A wife who bears the trials of her home with contentment and hope becomes a source of peace and a pillar for her husband. She earns immense reward, and more importantly, she preserves the sanctity of her household.

Conclusion : The Spiritual Architect of the Home

A Muslim wife is not merely a helper or companion—she is the spiritual architect of her home. With heartfelt du‘ā’, wise support of her husband, conscious organization of her household, and unshakable patience, she lays the foundation for a righteous generation.

> “Your child’s strength in Islam begins with your strength in du‘ā’.
Your home’s light is your patience.
Your husband’s success is tied to your support.”
— Abdulmalik Dolapo Mustapha

May Allah bless all Muslim wives with wisdom, taqwā, and steadfastness in fulfilling their noble roles.
اللَّهُمَّ اجعل نساءنا قانتاتٍ حافظاتٍ للغيبِ بما حفظت، واملأ بيوتنا سكينةً وهدًى ورحمة.

Stop Exposing Your Sins, Proud and Shameless Sinners

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PROUDLY SINNING?
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We live in a time where people are proudly declaring and boasting about their sins.
“I was out with this girl.”
“I was chilling with this boy.”
“I got super drunk the other day.”
“I saw this movie, listened to this music.”
And the list goes on and on..

We see an endless array of proud sinners sharing their sins with others.

They forget they are transgressing against the Lord of the Worlds.
The Lord of the Universe.
Because they have taken a blessing of Allāh ﷻ, the screen that was put in front of their sin so nobody could see it and they have thrown it back at Allāh ﷻ

Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه reported: The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: “Everyone from my nation will be forgiven except those who sin in public. Among them is a man who commits an evil deed in the night that Allāh has hidden for him, then in the morning he says: O people, I have committed this sin! His Lord had hidden it during the night but in the morning he reveals what Allāh has hidden.”
[Sahih al-Bukha‌ri‌ 5721, Sahih Muslim 2990]

Stop your shamelessness!
Stop telling everyone about the sins that you commit, major or minor.

Repent for your sin and strive to improve yourselves to become better so you raise your ranks in the sight of Allāh ﷻ.

Allāh ﷻ says:
إِنَّمَا ٱلتَّوْبَةُ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ لِلَّذِينَ يَعْمَلُونَ ٱلسُّوٓءَ بِجَهَٰلَةٍۢ ثُمَّ يَتُوبُونَ مِن قَرِيبٍۢ فَأُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ يَتُوبُ ٱللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمْ ۗ وَكَانَ ٱللَّهُ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًۭا

Allāh accepts only the repentance of those who do evil in ignorance and foolishness and repent soon afterwards; it is they to whom Allāh will forgive and Allāh is Ever All-Knower, All-Wise.

وَلَيْسَتِ ٱلتَّوْبَةُ لِلَّذِينَ يَعْمَلُونَ ٱلسَّيِّـَٔاتِ حَتَّىٰٓ إِذَا حَضَرَ أَحَدَهُمُ ٱلْمَوْتُ قَالَ إِنِّى تُبْتُ ٱلْـَٰٔنَ وَلَا ٱلَّذِينَ يَمُوتُونَ وَهُمْ كُفَّارٌ ۚ أُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ أَعْتَدْنَا لَهُمْ عَذَابًا أَلِيمًۭا

And of no effect is the repentance of those who continue to do evil deeds until death faces one of them and he says: “Now I repent;” nor of those who die while they are disbelievers. For them We have prepared a painful torment.
[4:17-18]

At the end of each day, repent.

Ya Ibn Adam! The straight path offers a struggle with the reward of Goodness upon Goodness endlessly.
While the Path of Shaithan offers pleasures upon pleasures temporarily to distract you so you may be in Torment upon Torment endlessly.
You may choose which end you strive for!

May Allāh ﷻ conceal our sins and forgive us all of us.
آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ

STUBBORN WOMEN ARE ALWAYS FAILURES! – WIN ARGUMENTS BUT LOSE HEARTS

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Written by Amina Al-Harbi, social consultant

Stubborn women fail in their marriages, and even in their relationships with relatives.

Women who lack emotional intelligence and flexibility in dealing with people around them, are the biggest failures in their marriages and their lives. Why?

She enters into an egoistic tug of war with her husband, and prefers the voice of her ego to try to overcome him, and in fact she fails before the ego of her husband and the ego of those who are around her, because men become more stubborn in front of a stubborn wife and stubborn sister, and they become more gentle in front of a submissive woman.

A headstrong woman thinks that she can win while insisting on her opinion, and she can stand in front of any opposition. She forgets that even if she wins by her obstinacy in her opinion and stand, she loses the heart that was loving her and caring for her.

Many narrations and wise proverbs in all the cultures have praised an easy-going, soft, friendly, patient and enduring woman. Even the Messenger (peace and blessings be on him) and the Companions after him, recommended and praised a woman who respects her husband and speaks with softness and wisdom, and in turn he will love her and never leave her.

The woman who will obey her husband and stoop to let the storm pass; she is the wise, rational woman who thrives, and holds the family together. The woman who stands like an unyielding dry stick is the one who breaks, suffering irreparable damage.

The uncompromising woman clings to her opinion. She tries to constantly perpetuate the illusion of her victory: I win and you lose, I am right and you are wrong. Such a woman destroys herself before destroying others. And she lives a life of sorrowful despondency in this world and the hereafter.

From my experiences in marital counseling, I found that mulish women end up in divorce. And bitterly fail in their family and social life. The even end up destroying her own father family and his siblings’

The advice of a bedouin Arab woman to her daughter on the day of her marriage, is considered by all the successful women the best advice for a woman. She said:
“Be his slave……and surely he becomes your imminent slave”.
“Men are kind, generous and benevolent, but a stubborn, foolish woman turns them into enemies.”

Finally I quote a wise Sheikh (may God have mercy on him):

I was a civil court judge for 27 years………and I found that most of the divorce incidents are caused by the anger of a man, and by the foolish responses of a woman.
In other words, the stubbornness of a woman makes a man ten times more stubborn than her.*

Translated by Sheikh Abdus Salam al-Madani*
Founder, Aspire College of Excellence.
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Well, in these days of feminism and female affirmative action, l find that the perceptions young women have about what should be their relationship with their spouses is seriously blighted by ego and impatience. They are not willing to work on their inherent flaws and feel the man should be the one to adjust to their own idiosyncrasies. I personally think the above tips works and any woman who wants to make a success of her marriage will do well to follow them.

Nature cannot be cheated

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3 Steps Registration for Zawaaj Matchmaking Center

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These are the three steps you’ll need to take to register with us.

1. Register
Please use your correct email, use strong password and remember your password.

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2. Personality Test

Visit  Personality Test – Zawaaj Muslim Matchmaking Marriage Center
Answer the questionnaire to the best of your knowledge. This helps us a lot in determining the degree of your compatibility with others.

Write down or snapshot the final result given to you. You will use it in the third step.

3. Profile Details
Visit  https://nikahdating.com/add-listing/marriage/
Complete your profile details. Please, for Allah’s sake be 100% honestly in filling the forms. It contributes immensely to the success and happiness of the future Marriage.

Please follow the above three steps religiously. They are different steps please to be taken one after the other.

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask.

Why this Stress About Matchmaking?

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Why must we pass through these long processes just to get a future partner?

People often wonder and ask questions, “Why must we pass through these long processes just to get a future partner?”, “Why must we answer more than 50 questions of personality test? Then, we must create profiles filling details about our states of health, religion and other personal data.” “Is this not too stressful and boring?” “Are all these really needed at all?”

These and other similar questions are often asked. This is not strange or surprising at all. Such questions normally arise when people do not know the reasons and purposes of passing through some processes. They easily become bored and discouraged.

This article is to briefly explain why these processes are necessary and worthwhile; and also to encourage our applicants to happily and correctly provide all the necessary information required of them.

Marriage Needs Proper Search and Preparation

Marriage is meant to be neither a temporary contract nor a part-time relationship. It’s impacts, whether positive or negative, in the lives of the couples, are also very deep and relatively permanent.

Ordinarily, a journey or project that will last for only one year worths preparations of a week or more; let alone a project of a lifetime that will leave permanent impact on the participants and even their progenies.

With all the Importance of marriage, these processes of providing the necessary information do not take even two hours from the applicant. Yet, they are all significant to his or her choice of future compatible partner and pave way for a family union full of love and joy.

Essence of The Personality Test

The personality-test is to elicit the basic information peculiar to each applicant. Individual traits and tendencies will be derived after correctly answering the professionally designed questionnaires. The result of the personality test will then be used a section of the profile details.

Essense of The Profile Details

The profile contains questions regarding the basic bio-data, health, physical description, marital preferences and religious inclinations. No information requested is unimportant. The applicant is expected to be truthful about himself or herself in the information he or she gives.

All these, when answered correctly will enable us make the adequate comparative analysis of the applicants and eventually give our objective recommendations.

It’s a duty entrusted on us to recommend a happy union leading to happy family, but can be achieved only with cooperation of the applicants patiently giving correct details of themselves.

Our principle is to do our possible best and put our trust in Allāh. Wa bil-laahit-tawfiiq

For any questions or clarification, please feel free to contact
Imaam Thamin Ayinde Abdul-Qadir

+2348027571283 (Calls and WhatsApp

+2347069715716. (Calls and WhatsApp)

Genotype and Marriage Compatibility

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Genotype and Marriage Compatibility

One important question that some people ask regarding filling their profile details during the matchmaking process is “Why do I need to reveal my genotype when I’m a Muslim and I’m very healthy? Is it a Sunnah requirement?”

Surprisingly, some even do not know their genotype until when asked to fill their profile details.

This article will attempt to explain the basics and Importance of knowing and considering genotype before proposing or accepting Marriage offer. Also, it will also explain why it is not only Sunnah but even compulsory to do so.

What is Genotype?

Genotype can be defined as the genetic constitution of an individual organism.

No two human beings are the same. People could bear some form of resemblance, look-alike, act the same, perhaps talk the same, but in reality, no two people are absolutely identical.

The genotype is the biological coding that ensures this specificity, uniqueness, and individuality. The DNA ( Deoxyribonucleic Acid ) contains the instruction manual that guides the formation of our genetic as well as physical traits.

This is different from your phenotype which is a description of your actual physical characteristics. It is imperative to know your genotype before you say “yes” to that handsome guy or to that beautiful lady whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with or if you are in a relationship in which there are chances of conception.

Intending couples should know and share information about each other’s blood genotype and blood group as this can serve as an important forecasting guide for offspring’s genotype, quality of life & overall health.

The problem to avoid with genotype compatibility for intending couples is the sickle cell disease (a recessive disorder)–a very serious medical condition with high prevalence rates in Africa south of the Sahara.

Types of Genotype

Typically, there are five (5) distinct types of blood genotype. They are AA, AS, AC, SS, and SC. While the first 2 pairs (AA & AS) are normal, AC is rare and the latter two (SS, SC) are irregular and anomalous, commonly causing sickle cell disease.

Sickle cell disease occurs when an individual’s blood cells are shaped in a deformed and abnormal manner, potentially blocking blood flow, causing pain and damage to vital organs.

Genotype Compatibility Formula

Study this table below carefully:

AA + AA = AA, AA, AA, AA (Excellent)

AA + AS = AA, AS, AA, AS, (Good)

AA + SS = AS, AS, AS, AS, (Fair)

AA + AC = AA, AA, AA, AC. (Good)

AS + AS = AA, AS, AS, SS, (Very Bad)

AS + SS = AS, SS, SS, SS, (Very Bad)

AS + AC = AA, AC, AS,SS. (Bad; Advice needed)

SS + SS = SS, SS, SS, SS, (Very Bad)

AC + SS = AS, AS, SS, SS, (Very Bad)

AC + AC = AA, AC, AC, SS. ( Bad; Advice needed).

Sickle Cell Disease – Solution Discovered

Until the early 1980s, sickle cell disease was thought to be debilitating and incurable.

The only thing that can change the genotype is the bone marrow transplant (BMT). Recent research however reveals that specialized bone marrow or stem cell transplants can be used to cure the ailment.

Bone Marrow Transplant (BMT) has been proven to be the only promising permanent cure to SS, SC, and CC; however, it is new, very expensive and cannot be done in any part of Africa. It also carries some risks.

Is It Islamic or Bid’ah Considering Genotype Before Marriage?

Allah says in a very clear term in Qur’an 2:195

_”And spend in the way of Allah and do not throw [yourselves] with your [own] hands into destruction . And do good; indeed, Allah loves the doers of good”_

The meaning of do not throw [yourselves] with your [own] hands into destruction is not limited to refraining from spending only. It is a general maxim that prohibits us from anything that can possibly harm us or others, once we’ve gained knowledge about it.

It will be fatalistic, unrealistic and sinful if one deliberately disregards, hides or falsifies information about his genotype. The decision of the two intending couples will not only impact on them but also on their children.

The Zawaaj Matchmakers would have considered this and other necessary factors before formally Introducing the intending couples.

Our principle is to do our possible best and put our trust in Allāh. Wa bil-laahit-tawfiiq

For any questions or clarification, please feel free to contact:

Imaam Thamin Ayinde Abdul-Qadir

+2348027571283 (Calls and WhatsApp

+2347069715716. (Calls and WhatsApp)

How To Be A Good Wife

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Every woman desires to be the best wife in the world while ever man wants the best wife in the world. So what qualities should a good wife have?

Listen: Most couples fight because both parties just listen for the sake of replying. You don’t need to reply all the time. Be the wife that listens to her hucehand whan ha eimnly wante to share. Voice your opinions when he asks for them.

Support: No matter how confident he may appear, men are insecure and have self doubts. He needs his wife to provide support and encouragement. Support him in his decisions and show him that you’ll stand by his side no matter what.

Space: Couples need to understand that they are two individuals who are mutually bound by a relationship. Giving space to each other involves trusting your partner so that she can spend some time without any responsibilities. Spending time away helps you enhance your personality with things like learning something new, meeting with other family members and developing hobbies.

Fun: Both spouses will have many responsibilities on their shoulders, and things will get overwhelming at times. However, you do not have to take things seriously all the time. It is important to have fun too. Make sure that your husband does not alwavs worrv about home and work. Allow him to have fun. Think of ways that you can enjoy together. It will not only help relieve the tension but also bring each other closer to each other.

Activities: Plan activities for your own ‘hubby-wife time.’ Don’t just spend all day long at your house on your (or his) day off from work. Monotonous routines can make relationships dull, so go togethers with old pals or just take a long drive and keep life interesting.

Honest:A man will trust you only if you are open with him. It is important for you to be honest with your feelings. Trust your husband with everything. Do not keep secrets from him. There has to be mutual trust for a ralatinnchip ta curcaad

Ask him how his day was and let him know about yours. Also, if there is anything that bothers you, have an honest talk with him. Your honesty will encourage your husband to be so. This can only strengthen your relationship and marriage.

Communicate: Good communication is crucial for as mentioned earlier, do not nag when problems arise, whether it is in your relationship or at home. Have calm heart-to-hearts

instead of going hostile on him when something bothers you.

When you communicate properly with your husband, he will be willing to listen to you. It will also make him want to communicate with you. Good communication is a great way to cement your bond. Your husband will appreciate the fact that you would rather sit down and discuss things than yell at him. This will make you exceptional!

A Home My Husband Can’t Wait to Return To,

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MAY ALLAH GUIDE THEM TO ISLAM

I saw a message on Twitter from a certain Maureen Bahema earlier today, Friday 29th Sha’aban, 1446H, which reads:

“When I become a wife, one of my greatest priorities will be to create a home my husband can’t wait to return to, a place where he feels deeply respected, loved, valued and completely at peace.”

Just from the name, the writer is a non-Muslim, but the message was so deep, sounding like the one from the mind of a woman of Eemaan, with good manners with Allah and from a good home. So I thought to share it with one of our sisters (may Allah preserve her); just by of extending benefits to others. Then our sister she sent me the messages you will read below.

After reading it all, I felt it appropriate that both the original Twitter post and the response from our sister deserve to be read by us all, more so that the person described in the message by our sister is also a non-Muslim. She said:

“Mallam if I told you about my mum and how she treats my dad. I only pray she becomes a Muslim so that she reaps the reward insha Allah

Naam mallam. I wonder at her

And that’s how my dad is so stuck to her

Right from a young age we saw that thing she does of always putting my dad above. If we are given gifts in school for coming first position and the rest, she says keep it until dad comes to visit. My dad comes to visit like every 3 or 4 months

Everything is about daddy, let’s hear what daddy’s decision will be, etc

His food, plate, cup and cutlery is different. We are not allowed to use his utensils

Till date, my dad still has his food set which no one else uses

When they go out, she doesn’t talk anyhow or put her mouth when he’s talking. She’s usually quiet around his friends unless invited to speak

If you tell her something and say don’t tell daddy, you are almost wasting your time. She will eventually tell him. Even her finances, she is not able to hide them from him

Even in our religious activities, she will use her money to cook for Eid

I’ve not known a woman like my mum to my dad. So many things. I just really feel bad she’s not a Muslim

Her commitment to my dad is something else. We even get jealous we her children.

I do say she loves her husband more than she loves we her children. Her loyalty is with him. Even if you plan with my mum, don’t think she will be on your side at the end of the day. She will likely go with her husband

And that’s how my dad too goes with her. If my mum doesn’t agree on something, my dad will hardly agree too

I wish I could have her dedication. She has a shop she runs and loves sooo much. You will even hear her say, if you love me, you should love helping out at my shop. But when my dad is around, she doesn’t go to the shop as she will normally do

I do fear for them dying separately

Even in Ramadan,she cooks diligently for him. Like today that the moon has been sighted, it’s she I informed to pass the message to my dad just in case he misses the news as they traveled

She loves her husband so much. Before she retired, she will always cook his breakfast before going to work whenever he was around

And also cook lunch when he returns. She normally doesn’t leave his meal for us to prep. Then on some days, when she cooks a meal and he has not returned, she will say that meal is now cold, and she will cook another

She won’t reheat or anything. She cooks a new one”

All these are about KAAFIRAAT…

I beg Allah, the Lord of all that exists to guide these women into Islam, and rectify many of the women of Islam and their men, Amin

COMPILED BY ABU NAASIR

MARRIAGE DOESN’T BENEFIT ALL MEN

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Dear men, this could be your situation in the next few decades. What are you doing about it?

He is 72 years old. He has retired from active service. He worked all his life to raise his children. He deprived himself of life’s pleasures to pay for expensive school fees and living expenses for his children abroad. They are now well off in Europe, Australia, and America.

His wife, aged 62, has relocated to live with their children. He remains alone back home and his children barely call him. He has to start life all over again as a bachelor.

He struggles with high blood pressure, diabetes and other ailments associated with old age. How much longer will he survive alone?

This is the reality for most working-class monogamous men: their old age is often lonely and, in many cases, sad. No matter how good the man is, women tend to love their children more than their husbands. The older he gets, the less use they seem to have for him.

So, what do men truly benefit from marriage? They sacrifice so much but receive little recognition for their hard work, while the woman seems to reap all the benefits. It’s a man’s world they said but for the women and children in reality.

Dear men, what is your retirement plan? Care for your self as much as you fend for your family. Love yourself.
God bless you All

I come in peace 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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